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The 100 Important Questions to Ask Before Getting Married


Getting married is one of life’s biggest changes. Even though you have found a nice Japanese woman and you and she are getting along, you may still be unsure if she is the right person to marry. Some people say that taking more time to learn about each other may help. The question is how long you need to understand her or when is the right time to ask her, “Will you marry me?”

I would like to recommend this book, The Hard Questions: 100 Essential Questions to Ask Before You Say “I Do” by Susan Piver.

This book is great to read when you are in a serious relationship with a Japanese woman before you and she make the big decision. You will learn how she thinks by asking and listening to her answers to 100 hard questions and vice versa.

The topics are questions about home, money, work, sex, health and food, family, children, community and friends, and spiritual life. They are all important topics, but if your relationship is still “AT A FRIEND” level, you may feel that such kinds of questions are untouchable or still too early to ask. However, if you want a “marriage relationship” you will have to ask those hard questions to create a deeper relationship than now.

In this book, the author Susan leads the readers to feel secure and comfortable.

A few weeks ago, I recommended similar book, “How to Fall in Love with Anyone” by Mandy Catron. Mandy also mentioned some questions to help in understanding each other. Her book is especially written for the early stages of relationships.

Susan’s book is for men and women who want to get married, but are unsure of how to make the next step towards marriage. This book is translated into Japanese, so it would be great to practice with her by reading this book and following its methods.

Questioning and answering the same topics is a great way to assist in understanding each other. One thing we would like you to keep in mind is to not expect her to answer with the “RIGHT or TYPICAL ANSWERS”. The way she thinks may not be the same as you, especially since she comes from a very different culture. It’s best to accept the differences between you and her. Learning from each other’s differences is how to deepen your relationship, and she will appreciate having a deeper intimacy with you. It’s important that you take the time to discuss about your future together and share each other’s thoughts.

If you have been communicating with a Japanese woman for more than 3-6 months, it is time to discuss detailed topics about “marriage”. If you still cannot make a decision about marriage, this book may help you with this question in a natural way.

At our summer event, we will discuss some questions from the topics in this book that are related to marriage. We hope it will help you to find your right person

Meet Japanese Women Speed Dating Event






Date: Sat July 7th 2018
Time: 15:00-18:00
Place: Harajuku Area, Tokyo
Here is the link for the event reservation.

Speed Dating Event in Japan on July 7th 2018
If you haven’t planned to visit Japan, we recommend to plan on July 7th 2018. We will host a speed dating event in Tokyo, so you can meet many beautiful Japanese women in Tokyo in one day. Also we can arrange individual meetings for you. I am sure this is a great opportunity for you if you really want to marry a Japanese woman within a year!

Speed Dating Preregistration: Register now, and you will receive the benefit.


Naoko Matsumoto Traditional Japanese Matchmaker






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Naoko Mastumoto

Founder and Personal Matchmaker at Traditional Japanese Matchmaker
Naoko Matsumoto is a certified personal matchmaker, founder and CEO of Traditional Japanese Matchmaker ( : the first international matchmaking company in Japan specializing in Japanese women. Naoko established TJM, a matchmaking company, in Minami Aoyama Tokyo in 1999. She has over 20 years experience in the matchmaking industry and in relationship coaching. TJM assists gentlemen all over the world and Japanese women in finding their right partners. TJM's mission is to connect happy men and women in order to create a global circle of happiness.


Matchmaking High Success Rate 1

Share.....FacebookTwitterLinkedinPinterestStumbleUponTumblremailMost matchmaking services in the US or other western countries define their success based on the number of dates they have enabled.   The number of dates is most likely used as a barometer of their success due to the fact that this will be a much higher number than the number of marriages. This higher number will be more effective in their marketing campaigns than a lower number.   On the other end of the spectrum, the matchmaking industries in Japan count the number of couples that get married as a measure of their success. Obviously, it will take ...

Matchmakers in Japan 2

Share.....FacebookTwitterLinkedinPinterestStumbleUponTumblremailOn July 1st and 2nd 2017, we had three events:  Make Happy Babies Seminar for Female Members  Finding Love Strategy Discussion for Female Members Only  Meet and Greet in Tokyo for Our Male and Female Members Over 2 days we had 3 events and over 100 people attended. And the events gave participants a big boost in learning about marriage and relationships.   1. Make Happy Babies Seminar for Female Members: We invited a doctor who is an obstetrician and a gynecologist to speak. He is also a specialist of infertility treatments and the author of a book about Infertility. ...

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